How To Interact With Different People

In life, we often encounter so-called "difficult to get along with" people.

Some people are silent all the time, even if you are looking for a topic, he will not ignore; some people are lofty and lofty, seemingly ungrateful, seem to be hostile to you; some people are full of arrogant and complaining in the sky; some people are critical of your work, and are all choosy; others are shallow, chatty and full of low tastes.

If you just get along with these people, the problem is that sometimes you will be forced to spend time with them, get along and work together. Under such circumstances, your troubles are imaginable. How to deal with these difficult people is indeed an art.

Find out the reason for yourself.

First of all, you have to be clear whether it is your own problem or whether you are asking too much for others.

You can try to interact with people around you to see if you think the "difficult person" is the same in other people's eyes.

If others do not feel this way, you should find out the reason from the relationship between yourselves or the two of you.

Using the conversion method

For a truly hard to get along with, you should learn to put yourself in a position to understand the situation of the other party, that is, the movement empathy.

You do not have to argue with him, or even compel him to do anything, but rather calmly ask him why he treated others in this way. In such a case, even if your purpose is not achieved, you can ease your relationship to a certain extent.

Of course, the reasons he put forward may seem very absurd to you. You don't have to argue with him, but try to find some real elements from his speech (which is certain), which will further ease the relationship between you and make both parties feel at ease.

Listening and communication

Of course, it is not easy to do this.

Here, I suggest that you learn to do something that a psychological consultant often does, that is, to learn to listen. Sometimes, listening can be more important than hundreds of words.

At the same time, you should not adopt the proper way to let him know that you are very disturbed by the way he treats you. This method often softens the antagonism of the difficult people.

If in this case, the other side still has no feelings for you, you can tell him frankly that "now" is not the best time to talk. "Over time" you need to have more communication, and emphasize that this is the work that both of you must do.

The purpose of this is to enable both sides to get rid of the impasse properly.

If you can deal with the "difficult to get along" with a tolerant way, then the other party will consciously and unconsciously change his behavior and keep in line with your high standard, which will avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble.